OR: IS IT POSSIBLE TO GROW BEYOND ADOLESCENCE?
In my years in leadership positions, and now as I’m coaching other leaders, one of the statements I hear most often is “Change is hard!” And, unfortunately, as hard as we try, whether from a personal or an organizational perspective, we might successfully move toward change for a period of time, but we invariably slide back to that with which we are familiar. William Perry, Harvard professor, often said as he counseled others, “What does this person really want – and what will they do to keep from getting it?” This statement struck me hard. It made me think about the many times I vowed to change a behavior, whether personal or professional, but somehow I moved back to square one over time. Some situation or some thought process pulled me away from the awareness of what I was aiming for, or completely overwhelmed it.
The beauty of it is that it is possible to grow beyond adolescence! We don’t have to be defined by a stagnated mental development because we can choose to change. Even better, we can create change, not just react to it. We don’t have to “fix” ourselves, because at the very heart of things we are perfect just the way we are! There is nothing to break down, reduce or overcome. What we are aiming for is transformational learning; our own, and in supporting others as they go about their own learning.
Why does this matter? Because as we assume leadership roles in organizations, volunteer positions, and at home, we are confronted with these realities:
- A good share of leading involves working with others to effect significant change.
- It is very hard to manifest change within a group without changes taking place in individual behaviors and group dynamics.
- It is almost impossible to nourish and maintain those behavioral changes without changing the causal meanings that create the behavior.
- And, we have an extremely difficult time leading others in transformational learning if we aren’t willing to consider the possibility that we also need to change.
Most people would agree, I believe, that despite the enormous amount of money being spent in our corporate environments today on change management, very little significant change actually takes place. It may be because they don’t go deep enough to look at why each individual may be resisting the very change they are trying to manage!
Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.